Momma always said

Momma always said, "The right one will come along when you're not looking."

Dying was a part of life...I sure wish it wasn't. I don't know if we each have a destiny? or if we are all just floating around accidental like on a breeze?  But I think... maybe it's both? Maybe both are happening at the same time. (forrest gump)

Life is Trying and trying... (chip)

Work hard, smile often and good things will happen. (honey)

There's a ton of excellent songs and quotes to reflect and listen to when I think about the meaning of life. Sitting on a rock and pondering life's purpose is hopefully one of things that we all can do. 

When I was turning 21, we were in Kona, and it was my birthday, August 22, 1988. My whole family was at Hale Iki and Hale Pili Kai if I recall, and there was a lot going on after dinner, too much for my liking. So I slipped away from the noise and sat out on the lava rock in the moonlight to watch the waves and ponder the meaning of life for a minute. I put on my Walkman to listen to music, a Bob Marley cassette. And... the world made sense in 3 great songs.  The first song was Three Little Birds, next was Redemption Song and the 3rd song was Waiting in Vain. I had happiness, strength and love on the horizon. Being 21 was going to be okay, better than okay. I could get away, take a deep breath and find life differently than my family members. Which is exactly what happened. I am different and better for that moment on the lava rock in Kona. I remember those 3 songs often, even now 36 years later, the feeling and meaning is poignant in my mind. Especially as I witness my son Noa being 26, different and better than his family. Having an empty nest is okay, better than okay. 

Maybe he will read this one day, and reflect on what his Momma always said? Hopefully it's relevant.